Loving Sex
I used to love having sex. What great
fun! I would pursue sexual partners like a lion pursues
its prey. Getting laid was my sport. Then I fell in
love and that cavalier attitude towards sex was ruined.
After I had experienced making love as opposed to
sex, the sex I had experienced with previous partners
faded into insignificance. Falling in love have been
the most powerful and exciting experiences of my life.
I've fallen in love three times now, but each experience
of being in love has been completely different. I
suppose that's because the people I have been in love
with have been different and, afterall, they are the
most important ingredient to the love cocktail. Sure,
we shared physical pleasure, but after experiencing
making love to a person I loved, sex was an insignificant
event.
But whatever we wish to call sex, for
me it is the intimacy with another human that is truly
exciting. Sex and making love both require trust.
I would argue that both require sincerity to achieve
fulfillment, but maybe that is just me. But both certainly
require trust. For another person to allow you to
explore them so intimately is quite simply beautiful.
Before making love or having sex, I will always take
a brief moment to remind myself it is all about my
partner. I do this not from a deeply generous heart,
but from an idea that were everyone to think that
before making love everyone would be sexually fulfilled.
Think about it for a second. If you both enter making
love or having sex with the thought it is all about
your lover, you will both seek to send each other
to the most powerful orgasm they have ever experienced,
and if you do that everytime, your sex life really
becomes fun!
Tim Rees
tim@lifeisart.co.uk
